This video was an interview with a friend of mine named Valeria, a nursing student an great example. Due to the format of the interview, there is no blog as the video is all about Valeria’s experiences and speaks for itself.
Last week I talked about how we have a better self a worse self and our current self. I would like to help you to reach your better self. The first step is accepting our traits, what we need to work on and who we are. This blog accompanies the YouTube video which is part 1 of 3 in the video series on self-acceptance. The dictionary defines accept as finding adequate or saying something is what it is but in the case of people and our personal selves we need to do both. Not only should we accept ourselves and that we are what we are people around us know that people recognize us for whatever we are. We also need to accept ourselves, realize that we are not perfect, but we are adequate.
When I first started this channel I thought it was going to be a breeze. I enjoy public speaking and am quite comfortable doing it, I also took a semester drama in seventh grade so I was quite confident that I would be able to do a YouTube video with no problems. When I picture myself in my head, I have I have a full head of nice wavy hair like I had back in high school. When I imagined myself on the video, I pictured a smooth, charismatic guy that was a mix between James Bond and Indiana Jones. I determine very quickly I wasn’t Indiana Jones or James Bond. As you can tell, I don’t look in the mirror very often. When I started shooting my first video and saw that the guy staring back at me was not the guy I saw in my head, that guy in my head was just an imaginary image, it wasn’t me at all, it was hard to look at myself. I knew that I had some breathing problems related to my muscular dystrophy, but I hadn’t realized how bad my breathing really was; in fact, I will address my breathing in the third video. I really don’t try to talk like Captain Kirk from Star Trek for any young people reading this or watching it that’s the original Captain Kirk played by William Shatner, not the newer Capt. Kirk.
Then I looked at my face you know it’s not perfect you see a lot of redness right now, and I was clean-shaven, and I thought you know what maybe if I grow some facial hair will help hide some of the perceived ugliness or imperfections. A few years ago I grew a beard, and everybody called me Blackbeard because it was so black, I started growing a goatee this time, and suddenly I saw gray hairs like that Mr. graybeard commercial, that really bothered me. After this, I realized we all have friends and acquaintances who like us accept us for who and what we are, they see us all the time and are used to us and in fact somebody out there probably thinks you’re good-looking or at least that you have a pleasant personality. We are the ones that aren’t used to seeing ourselves, so the moment we do, all we see are the imperfections, not the qualities that are close to perfection or on the way to perfection.
I’m going to give everyone reading this blog or watching the video a homework assignment. Go home, or wherever you are that’s convenient, you can write these things down or do it mentally, but I would recommend writing or typing if you can as it will make it easier and more beneficial. Make a list with two columns one column list the things you like about yourself, that you’re good at, or you find acceptable. On the second column write down the things you want to work on or the things you don’t like about yourself. It could be your looks anything, but really your looks aren’t the most important thing.
After you’ve made this list, the first thing I want you to do is circle the good things you like about yourself. After you’ve circled the stuff you like to proceed to underline the things you want to do, are trying to do, or are good things that you’re proud of. Now go to the bad column and look at all those things and ask yourself of the things in the bad column how many are accepted by my friends and loved ones, what are they okay with about me that I’m not. After looking at the things in the bad column cross them out and ignore them because they are probably things you can’t do anything about anyway, there are so many more important things that people seem to be okay with about you. Don’t worry about things like gray hair, or other cosmetic things, look at the things that you want to change or that you want to do. Write those down on a whole new list and put the other list away or even throw it away. Start making a plan of what you can do to help the things on your new list to come about, you might even prioritize them work on one at a time and once you get acceptable or adequate with that one thing then go to the next. The important thing is that you create your own plan or create a plan with someone who cares about you to help you to improve those things about yourself.
In the second video of this series I will have a guest, and in the third, I will talk more about my own experiences. I will reiterate one crucial thing even if I forget to mention it in videos. Sometimes we have to recognize that we need help. We can’t do everything ourselves no one is good at everything. Using myself as an example, I have some degrees here on my wall, and I have experience in certain things and knowledge in specific areas. However, no matter what I know there are all kinds of people who know more than I and certainly know more than I do on certain topics. I have some experience, but other people have much more experience than me. I have many experiences, but I lack experience with marriage and family matters, so I thought about who I know with those experiences and a talent for expression. I had a friend in mind for the very beginning, and I think she will be excellent at filling in this particular experience gap. I don’t know when she will be joining the videos but she will, and I believe she can help in ways that I can’t. I look forward to improving myself and helping everyone else to meet their self-improvement goals. I hope you’ll join me and come back for the next time so I thank you, and I wish you luck in all that you do. Have a great day and remember to look at things with positivity!